Everyone who reads a BDSM tale hears about Limit's Lists, but if you aren't going to parties or getting to know a dom/me or a sub, it can seem a bit esoteric. I actually have two limit's lists. The one is very negotiation detailed, almost to the point of ad nauseum, but at the same time, sometimes that is smart. In the moment, it can be difficult to remember everything you will or won't 'do.'
Today I thought I would share my basic limit's list so that you can see what one might look like. Don't expect everyone's list to look like this, because they won't. And this is as basic as it gets, imo. My negotiation one goes into a lot more detail. And no, this is the list without my information. That is private. The wording in this list is sub-oriented because it is mine, but remember, dominants have limits too.
Without further ado... I give you - The Limit's List
For each item mark yes or no to indicate prior experience
After indicating experience mark with a number 0-4 to indicate interest in that idea
0 indicates - a hard limit, something the sub has an aversion to.
1 indicates - no desire to do this, but does not have a particular aversion to it. Something the sub would consider doing however to please a dominant.
2 indicates - that he or she would probably like the activity, could be something that is an enjoyable fantasy, but that the sub is not sure will translate into an enjoyable real life activity. Also could be something the sub wants but is embarrassed to admit.
3 indicates - that this activity is something that he or she would like to do, perhaps a reoccurring fantasy and often something that the sub has done in the past and enjoyed.
4 indicates - the sub finds this activity a wild turn on and has a particular fetish or preoccupation with it.
Age play (not pedophilia)
Arm and leg sleeves
Being serviced (sex)
Caning – English –
Chores (domestic service)
Chosen clothing for
Chosen food for
Eye contact restrictions
Fantasy gang rape
High heel worship
Homage with tongue
Hot wax – dripping
Hot wax hair removal
Human puppy dog
Humiliation in private
Humiliation in public
Intricate rope bondage
Mantra and meditation
Massage – getting
Model for erotic pictures
Oral giving to opposite sex
Oral giving to same sex
Over the knee spanking
Prostitution, real or fantasy
Scratching – giving
Serving as a maid
Serving as a pony
Serving as furniture/art
Serving as toilet
Serving other Doms (supervised only)
Serving other Doms (unsupervised only)
Stable (serving with other submissives )
Standing in corner
Strap on dildos
Any allergies that the Dom(me) should be aware? (if yes, describe:)
Any medical conditions? (if yes, give details:)
Any specific subject not described in this list that the Dom(me) should be concern with? (if yes describe:)
Any fears real or imagined that would cause you extreme anxiety (if yes describe)
...and now that I have re-read this to make sure it still looks good with all my info removed, I'm hot. *sigh*
Labels: BDSM, D/s, limits, limits list, preparation, safety