Embrace Your Inner Slut


Last weekend I listened to the 'Becoming Your Inner Siren' teleseminar. It was wonderful to have 24 individuals who embrace that inner passionate being and recognized just how much we as women need that to be whole.

I grew up in an ultra-conservative religion. One that denied sexuality, said it was intrinsically evil and that you needed to shun it except for what it was intended for - bringing babies into this world. Now I was a very sexual being, even from my childhood and the amount of guilt laid at my feet from that religion for my desires/needs forced me to lock it up.

Of course I could only lock it up so long before it forced its way out - it needed an outlet, a release. One that when I gave in just increased my feelings of shame and guilt.

When I left that hideous religion behind I finally began to accept that sexual side of myself. Strangely enough (at least to me at the time) was the fact that the more I embraced that passionate woman inside, the higher my self-esteem rose. The less guilt I felt for loving and enjoying sex allowed me to be more open about other, non-sexual things.

A few years ago I recognized just how much I had changed due to accepting that part of me and how some residuals from my past still kept me down at times. I felt a need to help others accept that beautiful, passionate woman within.

So I was thrilled to listen to that seminar and hear so many others who are working to do that.

Where am I going with this?



There are others out there to help you. We all have different parts of us. It has been said for many years that every female has three parts:


I agree. But I must add another. The slut. It is a hard word to hear at times - The term slut has been used for so long as a derogatory term. But should it be? Maybe it is time to change that definition. What is my definition? A slut is someone who is aware of their own sexual needs and is willing to express them without shame or guilt.

For years I have denied that term. I did not want people to think of me as 'a slut', but you know what? I am. No, not in the derogatory sense, but in the fact that I love that sexual side of me, I don't want to hide that part anymore. In many ways I have opened up about that side. My mother knows I am a sub. So do most of my friends.

For other subs, you will recognize what I am about to say. If someone looked at me and called me "slut", I would probably get pissed and tell them off; humiliation, especially verbal humiliation, is not my thing. BUT - if my One looked at me and said the words "My slut", I would melt at the same time every fire within me would ignite.

Being a slut isn't about following everyone else, it is about following your own inner needs.

Look inside at that passionate siren within you. Throw your arms around her and ask, "What do you need?"

She will tell you as of any part of us, that inner slut is rarely afraid to speak her mind. But the thing is - you need to be prepared to listen.

All women need to embrace that part of ourselves. That passionate being inside of us has so much power, desire and need to express and it is NOT all about sex. But by denying her, we are denying living a full life.

Embrace that inner slut. Find someone to help you learn to let her out in a safe environment. Many who have not allowed that part of them loose can be afraid that if they did, they would become something they do not want to be. I personally feel that fear is based from something we heard as children, maybe even something that was told to us to keep us safe at the time. And yes, I have dealt with that particular fear and with each new desire, sometimes I still battle it..

But we are no longer children. We are adults and have every right to express ourselves as we see fit. Obviously society-wise, some things are not acceptable, but within the walls of our own homes?

Be who you are. Do not let anyone else tell you that your needs are wrong. They are right for you. Find a way to express them. Find others who share the same desires and needs. Form support groups if needed.

Hell, have a question? Ask me! If I don't know the answer I will be honest about it, but I can promise you this - I'm non-judgmental. I've heard just about everything.

Want a guide? Here are some names from the teleseminar this last weekend - who knows, maybe one of them might be the person you need: (As I have not used any of their programs, I do not endorse them. This is for information purposes only.)

Marguerite Rigoglioso - Your Sacred Womb


Katie Hendricks - Being Completely at Home in Your Own Body


Ray Doktor - The Language of Feminine Sensuality


Anaiya Sophia - The Seven Gates to Sexual Freedom


Julie Ward - Permission to Be Truly Feminine


Michelle Casto - Singing Your Unique Siren Song


Emma Ziff - Make it NOT Fake It!


Bonnie Gayle - Body Image Issues


Daphne Cohn - The Pleasure of the Feminine Force


Kimberly McGeorge - Clearing Your Energy Body


Tanja Diamond - Tantra and Orgasms


Nicole Moore - How to Stop Pushing Love Away


Tina Konkin - The Gift of Forgiveness


Corynna Clark - Limitless Pleasure


Jumana King-Harris - Woman as Temple


Lynnet McKenzie - Opening to Ecstasy


Billy Sunday Mars - The Health Benefits of Sex and Sensuality


Jan Robinson - Being Irresistibly Magnetic to High Quality Men
(I spoke with her on the phone. An incredible non-judgmental person)


Allana Pratt - Being Intimate with Yourself


Elayne Doughty - Cultivating Feminine Presence


Pamela Madsen - Being Shameless


Ben and Jen Rode - Explosive Sexual Healing


Susan Gala - Loving Your Pelvic Core


Crystal Andrus - Authentic Feminine Power


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