Flavors of #BDSM What flavor are you? #FSOG #OldGuard #leathermen

I've been thinking of the different types of BDSM'ers and a friend of mine asked a question the other day about how long FSOG was going to be predominant in the erotic genre. It got me to thinking about the types/flavors of BDSM.

There are tons of them and each one can be broken down into a million other sections - after all, humans are continually trying to define themselves as different from the rest - but there are a few that stand out to me and I'd like to suggest you look at what you like and see what subset you are in - or if yours is a completely different one.

For those not in the know, BDSM is nothing but an acronym standing for three large areas within it:

B&D - Bondage and Discipline
D&S - Domination and Submission
S&M - Sadomasochism

Within each area, there are so many derivations and so many kinks involved, well, there are far too many to mention anywhere and no matter where you find a list, it will not be the end all and be all of BDSM existence because the lifestyle is continually evolving and changing.

There are those who define themselves as Old Guard. Much of what I've been told about the Old Guard is that is pays strict adherence to the BDSM that errupted after WWII when gay servicemen returned from war. Depending on who you talk to will change the wording, it is definitely a distinct type/flavor of BDSM with overriding rules that govern who does what.

There's the Leathermen. This movement started in gay clubs/bars. I know there are levels you have to go through to receive your leather (no, you just can't toss on a pair of leather pants and call yourself a master), and unfortunately in many of the communities I've lived in, the het BDSMers and the leathermen have been continually butting heads. Which was damned annoying, by the way - and both sides were at fault.

Then there is a group I would consider myself a member of - I've never heard of a name referring to us so no name is given. We crave the D/s part of the dynamic. Words like respect and honor are welcomed and while we may or may not be involved in the B&D and S&M sections, the D/s is our most important flavor. The club I first started in had this to a small degree but not as much as I required to feel fulfilled. Most of us don't go to clubs as a rule as BDSM clubs emphasize the B&D and S&M parts, using D/s as more of a Top/Bottom element. We only hit a club if we aren't getting any kind of our needs met at home. Strangely enough, none of us seem to have learned our desires from books, unlike many other BDSMers. They were there all along and when we found there were others like us, it was definitely like finding a home we never realized we were missing.

Of course, there are those who figure if you don't have B&D or S&M in your dynamic that you aren't practicing the lifestyle as to them that is what BDSM is all about. One sub informed me all doms are sadists and I just stared blankly back as that part made no sense whatsoever. But I've since realized that this is her type of BDSM.

Up here in the NW part of the US, we have a HUGE number of non-dominant sadists. And there are also a fairly large number of non-submissive masochists. So there is another flavor - that part of the BDSM dynamic for which D/s doesn't even come into play.

The last group I'll discuss and give a name to are the FSOG contingent. As much as many of us would like to cast off the dreaded Fifty Shades of Grey (all for different reasons) and want it to die a quick death, we can no longer deny that it has created its own brand of BDSM. All about sex, very little about domination, and mostly all about fun. There's nothing wrong with that - it's just not my particular brand.

Whatever flavor/type of BDSM you practice, enjoy it. But recognize there are other types as well. BDSM is all about enjoying life the way you need it. So embrace your brand of BDSM, and be happy everyone else can do the same.

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